Allow Me To Guide You Toward a Happier Way To Live
There comes a time in each of our lives when we may feel lost. Let me assure you that no matter what hurdle, heartache, trauma or challenge you are going through, you are not alone. I've had some pretty dark times and because I've not only survived but found a way to bounce back and thrive, I now view every seemingly dark time as a lesson learned, a “BrightSpot.”
Hard to believe that anything that arrives seemingly wrapped in barbed wire can turn out to be a spiritual gift."The BrightSpot Way," is a positive path to help you rise above circumstances allowing you to shine your light!
I have experienced many devastating challenges. The deaths of many beloved people and pets, a painful divorce, financial bankruptcy, loss of a home, demise of a successful career, two unexpected job lay-offs, and the ongoing chronic illness of my husband, Robert. But it was the tragic suicide of my beautiful step-daughter Danielle from Alchoholism, at the age of 33, that ultimately brought me to my knees. Grief counseling, personal therapy and the loving support of family and friends helped, but something was missing inside me and I began to seek it.
As if a great tsunami had washed over my life, I felt there was no solid ground to stand on. I had a choice, to resist the flow and become a victim of these negative circumstances, or to find a way to let go of suffering and to rise about it all like a cork that floats on the water. So I learned to let go.
Fortunately, no matter how stressful my life felt, I never chose alcohol, drugs, shopping, or other addictions to numb my sorrow, I did however spend years running away from my feelings, until migraine headaches and sleepless nights provided my ultimate wake-up call, my spiritual awakening.
My heart needed healing and my soul was yearning to speak to me. My own inner guidance or intuition, was nudging me forward but I had to stop the treadmill of avoiding my feelings, and be still enough to listen. It was then that my self-healing began and for the first time in my life, I learned what it meant to begin to ‘love myself”. I discovered that Surrender is the key and Self-Care is the soothing balm. At some point we all need nurturing and I began to mother myself, and heal old wounds in order to be free of them.
Authenticity with ourselves is not what most people are up to. But then most people are not really joyful or peaceful inside. It was easy to pretend I was happy and fulfilled, but when I looked in the mirror there were no secrets my transparent heart didn't know. Once I opened my eyes to the truth about everything, I noticed unexplainable seemingly magical synchronicities occurring around me. Feathers appeared on my path wherever I went and number sequences began to have relevance. I wondered if I was going crazy? The truth is I had awakened to a new reality. I am the co-creator of my life when aligned with a divine force that is guiding me to live more happily with my life on purpose.
Only in retrospect can I understand that tsunami of events had transformed me from a human doing into a human being. Like smooth beach glass plummeted against the shore, my jagged edges had been smoothed. Life had humbled me. Today I am grateful for all the little and simple things I once took for granted. I can accept and appreciate that my heartache served to break my heart wide open to be able to judge less and love a lot more, with far greater compassion, for myself and for others.
These days most of the time, I wear a smile on my face, and for the most part, I am peaceful, and happy although outside circumstances are often less than perfect. I do this by "finding something to feel good about" every day, and by turning those dark spots into “BrightSpots.” as quickly as I can.
The funny thing is that one day the thing that seemed to be missing inside my heart found me.The truth is it was there already. I’ve always loved to help lessen the emotional suffering of others and show the way toward healing when they need it most. I had to first learn how to heal myself in order to be able to be of service to any one else. Today I no longer try to fix people, I allow them the time and space and the process to heal themselves. I have learned to trust.
My best credentials are my own real life story. What I have learned is that only when I love myself, am I truly capable of loving someone else. If I want equal measure in any relationship, I must first measure up….The choices I make can empower me, I cannot control anyone or anything else, but I can listen to my inner guidance and have faith that if I balance my thoughts with my heart, I will be led toward a more fulfilled life with more peace and joy.
Perhaps your cross-road, tipping point, or crisis is now, and it feels like a lonely road to travel. If what I have shared resonates with you, I am here to create a personal sacred space for you to hear the voice of your own soul. I will listen and offer practical and spiritual solutions and do my best to help you transform any seemingly dark circumstance into a "BrightSpot."
When viewed as an opportunity for your personal growth and self-empowerment, I believe my method, “The BrightSpot Way” will direct you toward greater peace and joy as you live your life with more grace and ease on a daily basis. It has and continues to work for me. Allow me to share it with you.
With Much Love, Marlena